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You're the only one I can tell: inside the language of women's friendships

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This warm, wise exploration of female friendship from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of You Just Don't Understand will help women lean into these powerful relationships. A WASHINGTON POST NOTABLE BOOK * "Celebrates friendship in its frustrations and its rewards and, above all, its wonderful complexity."-- The Atlantic Best friend, old friend, good friend, bff, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: Women's friendships are a lifeline in times of trouble and a support system for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor--or she can be all of these at once. She's seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people. In this illuminating and validating new book, #1 New York Times bestselling author Deborah Tannen deconstructs the ways women friends talk and how those ways can bring friends closer or pull them apart. From casual chatting to intimate confiding, from talking about problems to telling what you had for dinner, Tannen uncovers the patterns of communication and mis communication that affect friendships at different points in our lives. She shows how even the best of friends--with the best intentions--can say the wrong thing, and how words can repair the damage done by words. Through Tannen's signature insight, humor, and ability to present pitch-perfect real-life dialogue, readers will see themselves and their friendships on every page. The book explains * the power of women friends who show empathy, give advice--or just listen * how women use talk to connect to friends--and to subtly compete * how "Fear of Being Left Out" and "Fear of Getting Kicked Out" can haunt women's friendships * how social media is reshaping communication and relationships Drawing on interviews with eighty women of diverse backgrounds, ranging in age from nine to ninety-seven, You're the Only One I Can Tell gets to the heart of women's friendships--how they work or fail, how they help or hurt, and how we can make them better. "At a time when the messages we give and get have so many more ways to be misconstrued and potentially damaging, a book that takes apart our language becomes almost vital to our survival as friends."-- The Washington Post
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Grouping Titleyou re the only one i can tell inside the language of womens friendships
Grouping Authordeborah tannen
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display_descriptionThrough research into the unique way women talk to one another, this validating and illuminating analysis of female friendship will help women lean into the comfort these powerful relationships offer and avoid the hurt feelings that come from common miscommunications.
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subject_facetConversation analysis
Female friendship
Interpersonal communication
title_displayYou're the only one I can tell : inside the language of women's friendships
title_fullYou're the Only One I Can Tell Inside the Language of Women's Friendships
You're the only one I can tell : inside the language of women's friendships / Deborah Tannen
title_shortYou're the only one I can tell
title_subinside the language of women's friendships
topic_facetConversation analysis
Family & Relationships
Female friendship
Interpersonal communication
Language Arts
Self Help